Monday, 30 December 2013
What 2013 Taught Me About Life and Writing
Over the last few days, I have contemplated the key things 2013 taught me. But before sharing my life and writing lessons with you, I need to say that 2013 was a year of both extreme highs and extreme lows. I experienced the joy of publishing my first book, the unending support of the writing community, and the giddy feeling of that first positive review. But I also lost someone incredibly close to me, and I'm only now beginning to realise what grief truly means. How when someone is taken from you it's forever. There are no second chances. So, I am both happy for the positive things I achieved in 2013 and glad to see the year end. It's a strange way to feel.
Here's what I learned in 2013:
Treasure your family and friends - life is short. You never know when they may be taken from you.
Material wealth means nothing compared to love and friendship.
Your friends - the people who choose to be part of your life - are worth their weight in gold.
It's okay to be selfish now and again. It's alright to say no.
If you want something badly enough, you'll do everything within your power to get it.
Actions speak louder than words. Inaction says, I don't care.
If a person refuses to help themselves or accept your help, there is nothing you can do for them. They have to want to change.
Nothing drains creativity like negativity.
Publishing a book while under extreme stress is not a good idea.
An editor is your best friend.
Social media and book marketing are like an unattainable font of knowledge. Knowing when and where to use it is almost impossible.
Anyone can self-publish. Standing out from the crowd gets harder every day.
Finally, remember you are a writer first and a business person second. Find joy in crafting a story. Worry about the book sales later.
I'm sure there are many more lessons I could share with you, but those were the ones that stood out. As I start 2014, I will keep in mind my experiences and use them to better myself. I will consider the consequences of my actions, and how I can both take time for myself and give to others. Most importantly, I will spend more time doing what I love - writing.
What were your lessons in life and writing this year?
All that's left for me to do now is to wish you and your loved ones a Happy New Year. Live long and prosper, my friends.