Wednesday, 3 August 2016
My First Insecure Writer's Support Group Post
It's the first Wednesday of the month and I've finally joined the Insecure Writer's Support Group. I'd planned to sign up back in January, but for a myriad of reasons it never happened. So, today is my first post.
What is the group's purpose? To share and encourage. Writers can express doubts and concerns without fear of appearing foolish or weak. Those who have been through the fire can offer assistance and guidance. It’s a safe haven for insecure writers of all kinds.
Before I answer this month's IWSG question, I'd like to share what's making me insecure at the moment - finding time to write.
My life has radically changed in the last three months. I've gone from living alone, and with plenty of time to write, to living with three housemates and my new partner. It's always busy. There is always a list of jobs around the house and garden that need completing. I still have family commitments. I still need to make time for friends. All of those things need to be fitted around work.
I get frustrated when people with an abundance of free time fail to understand how little I have, and then angry if they try to guilt me into doing things. Of course, I'm always too polite to say anything. You see I've never been good at saying no. I feel guilty when I'm unable to make time for friends or family. When something needs sorting or cleaning in the house, I feel like it's my responsibility. Yet I know that saying no occasionally and expecting others to take on tasks is what I must do to make time for my writing. Will I still feel guilty? Yes. Will I let that stop me? I have to answer no, because the other option is unacceptable.
Do you struggle with balancing writing with all the other parts of your life? Do you have trouble saying no?
August's IWSG question:
What was your very first piece of writing as an aspiring writer? Where is it now? Collecting dust or has it been published?
The first piece of writing I was serious about has to be a science fiction novel I started in the mid to late 1990s. I can't remember the year. It was written on a rented computer and each chapter saved to a floppy disc. It was called All Systems Go. It was terrible. So, I threw the discs away. You can imagine how much I've regretted that decision. Even though I'm sure it would be cringeworthy at best, I'd still like to read my earliest novel-writing effort.
The lesson to be learned here is never throw away your writing. It doesn't matter that you think it's crap or hate it. It was part of your writing journey. You puts words to paper. You created something. And think how exciting it will be to re-read those efforts years from now.