Wednesday, 7 March 2018

IWSG: Best Laid Plans


It's time for March's Insecure Writer's Support Group post. You can learn more about the IWSG group, it's founder Alex J. Cavanaugh, and purpose hereThe awesome co-hosts for March's post are Mary Aalgaard, Bish Denham, Jennifer Hawes, Diane Burton, and Gwen GardnerPlease drop by and thank them for all their hard work. 

I'm going to skip this month's question and instead apologise for not posting in February. Remember back in January when I posted this year is now or never when it comes to my writing? Cue extra hours at work, a holiday to Center Parcs, a friend not respecting the need for time alone to write, adopting a shelter dog, and a husband home with the flu, and my writing didn't progress to where I wanted it to be this far into 2018. 

The Saturday before last, I had a mini meltdown. The lack of time to write and blog had finally gotten to me, and the tears flowed. It's not supposed to be this hard, right? I should be able to put myself first for a little time each day without feeling guilty. My husband says my default setting is guilt and I need to change it. I think he's probably right. It's difficult when most people in my life don't understand that writing is a solo activity, I need time alone to do it, and that I actually like my own company. As much as I love spending time with friends and family, I don't need to fill every moment of my day with other people.

Since the meltdown, my husband has been working hard to get me the time needed. He's encouraging me to step away from chores that he can do, and asking others not to interrupt me. He might not fully understand my writer's temperament or need for time alone, but he really is trying. I'm blessed to have him in my life.

Now enough about me. How are your writing and non-writing plans for 2018 coming along? Are you making progress, however slow? I want to hear all about your adventures.

18 comments:

  1. That's good that he's supportive of your writing. You need time to yourself. Good luck in making that time and getting some words down!

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  2. 2018 appears to be bent on derailing plans. It's wonderful that your hubs is so supportive. Mine has long respected, if not understood, that my writer's brain is a bit off kilter. Hang in there - sometimes we just have to take and make snatches of time for our craft. (oh listen to me - I haven't written anything significant in weeks - also derailed.)

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    1. Snatches of time seems like an excellent plan - my dream of endless hours of uninterrupted time seems too far away. Now get writing! Me and you.

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  3. Glad your husband is being supportive. My husband is a stand-up comedian and we often have writing time together, but he usually interrupts me so he can tell me his new jokes. I really do write better by myself.

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    1. It's fantastic you're both writers, albeit of a different sort. I agree about writing being something best done alone. The jokes would be too big a distraction.

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  4. I get your frustration with the time burdens. Glad you have a good guy to do what he can. I'm lucky to usually have a few hours alone each evening.

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    1. That's brilliant you get time most evenings. I feel bad saying it, but my husband has a job interview next week, and I'm secretly hoping I'll get a bit more time to myself if he's successful.

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  5. Let your husband help you and take the time it gives you.

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    1. I'm trying, but it's hard to switch off from all the things that need doing.

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  6. That's wonderful of your husband to be supportive. Mine doesn't understand being a writer either, but he's very good at giving me time to myself. I'm making progress... on a new project that isn't the one I had planned to be working on. But it's progress!

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    1. I'm excited to read you're working on a new project! It's wonderful your husband is so supportive.

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  7. Hi Ellie - that's great news your hubby is being so helpful ... and as he says do something for you regularly and not so much for others, other than your beloved - that's a taken. Good luck ... the winter blues (or whites!) are almost over - and then enjoy the Spring ... cheers Hilary

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    1. Thanks, Hilary. Hubby is a definite given.

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  8. God bless him! Take him to Home depot for his reward. My husband would like that.

    Right now I am in a big planning of two posts for my other blog site. It involves a lot of research into family history and photos. Great fun to learn about those who came before.

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    1. Family ancestry and history is always fascinating. I'll keep an eye out for your posts.

      I had to laugh out loud when I read your Home Depot comment. Any kind of DIY stuff makes my husband happy.

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  9. "I should be able to put myself first for a little time each day without feeling guilty." That sums it up for me too. You'd think I'd get tired of my own company with all the hours spend alone on the road, but I still need my time in my own home, immersing into worlds of my own creation.

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    1. We all need that time, even non-writers. It's vital to our mental health. We'll conquer the guilt!

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